{"id":113806,"date":"2024-10-13T21:40:46","date_gmt":"2024-10-13T14:40:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=113806"},"modified":"2024-10-13T21:40:46","modified_gmt":"2024-10-13T14:40:46","slug":"are-you-glossing-pretending-to-be-fine-at-work-isnt-doing-any-good","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=113806","title":{"rendered":"Are you &#8216;glossing?&#8217; Pretending to be fine at work isn\u2019t doing any good"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-layout-key=\"-fb+5w+4e-db+86\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"7910942971\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div>\n<p>Countless workers are smiling through the stress via a phenomenon called \u201cglossing\u201d and it\u2019s time to put an end to it.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cGlossing\u201d refers to excessive optimism to dismiss difficulties at work, including real emotional struggles and negative emotions, said Dr. Trina Clayeux, PhD, of Raleigh, NC, and CEO at <a href=\"https:\/\/giveanhour.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Give an Hour,<\/a> a mental health nonprofit that provides free mental health services nationwide through a network of volunteer professionals.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cUsing this coping mechanism can lead to mistrust, isolation, increased stress and even resentment,\u201d said Clayeux, pointing to a <a href=\"https:\/\/monsterworkwatch24.my.canva.site\/monster-poll-mental-health-in-the-workplace-2024\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">2024 Monster poll <\/a>which found that 67% of workers feel they work in a toxic environment and 78% of workers don\u2019t think their employer is doing enough to address their mental wellness at work.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image aligncenter size-large\"><button class=\"button button--modal-trigger\" aria-label=\"Open the image in a modal.\" data-modal-image=\"33585610\"><br \/>\n\t<svg xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"icon-plus\" fill=\"#fff\" viewbox=\"0 0 1033 1000\" width=\"1em\" height=\"1em\"><path d=\"M380 364V0h273v355h380v290H653v355H380V645H0V355h380v9z\"\/><\/svg><br \/>\n<\/button><br \/>\n<img loading=\"lazy\" style=\"aspect-ratio:1.5;display:block\" decoding=\"async\" data-modal-image=\"33585610\" width=\"885\" height=\"590\" src=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2024\/10\/iStock-1403085462.jpg?w=1024\" alt=\"Coworker comforting a stressed and discouraged woman in an office setting\" class=\"wp-image-33585610\" srcset=\"https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2024\/10\/iStock-1403085462.jpg?quality=75&amp;strip=all 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https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2024\/10\/iStock-1403085462.jpg?resize=662,441&amp;quality=75&amp;strip=all 662w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2024\/10\/iStock-1403085462.jpg?resize=90,60&amp;quality=75&amp;strip=all 90w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2024\/10\/iStock-1403085462.jpg?resize=87,58&amp;quality=75&amp;strip=all 87w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2024\/10\/iStock-1403085462.jpg?resize=150,100&amp;quality=75&amp;strip=all 150w, https:\/\/nypost.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2024\/10\/iStock-1403085462.jpg?resize=50,33&amp;quality=75&amp;strip=all 50w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\"\/><figcaption>Glossing is ignoring your feelings to put on a positive attitude. <span class=\"credit\">Getty Images\/iStockphoto<\/span><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Most people know if they are glossing, said Karen Leal, performance specialist at <a href=\"https:\/\/www.insperity.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Insperity,<\/a> a national HR provider in Houston.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThey may say they are fine or not speak up, but they have an inner monologue about what is not quite sitting right,\u201d she explained, noting that glossers may also know what changes they would like to see but aren\u2019t expressing their thoughts and ideas.<\/p>\n<p>The practice of sidestepping these conversations can become a bad habit.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module aligncenter wp-block-nypost-editor-primary-tag\">\n<\/aside>\n<p>\u201cThe longer the avoidance continues, the chances of productively addressing the issues get slimmer,\u201d she said. \u201cThe issues either go unresolved or get addressed when they can\u2019t be swept under the rug anymore.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Along with the dreaded \u201cI\u2019m fine,\u201d some telltale signs from co-workers include dismissive comments and ignoring feedback. Even those overly cheerful emails could be an avoidance tactic, said Clayeux, who advised paying attention to phrases like \u201cjust stay positive!\u201d or \u201cit could be worse!\u201d<\/p>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignright\">\n\t<\/aside>\n<p>\u201cThis is very common in toxic environments where glossing is a consistent practice,\u201d she said.<br \/>Here\u2019s how to overcome this common workplace MO.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Tone down positive language<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Clayeux stressed checking in with yourself and gauging the emotional tone of conversations. Then use language that acknowledges your feelings rather than using overly positive statements.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.geraudstaton.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Geraud Staton,<\/a> a Durham, NC, CEO who works in consulting and public affairs and also serves as a peer support facilitator at Give an Hour, recalls one notable example.<\/p>\n<p>Staton and a colleague were working on a major project, reporting to the same supervisor. \u201cI noticed that my co-worker often used glossing to downplay the amount of time and effort required to complete the project,\u201d he shared. \u201cThey would frequently tell partners and stakeholders how seamless and quick the process would be, which I knew wasn\u2019t accurate.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Staton was concerned about speaking up since no one ever wants to be the \u201cbad guy.\u201d Eventually, he settled on using data to display an honest estimate of how long it would take to complete the project.<\/p>\n<figure 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protect themselves, especially in environments with manipulative leadership or supervisors. It can feel easier to gloss over the challenges to avoid being seen in a negative light,\u201d reflects Staton. \u201cGlossing didn\u2019t get us anywhere, and being honest and upfront from the beginning would have been the best route.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Speak up at one-on-ones<\/strong><\/h2>\n<aside class=\"single__inline-module alignleft\">\n\t<\/aside>\n<p>Make the most of this valuable time with your boss.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThese personal meetings are meant for you to open up and express any issues you may have and point out areas where you need additional support,\u201d said Leal, who emphasized the importance of having difficult conversations.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cLearning to navigate the dialogue about challenges you are facing creates the experience to, hopefully, make the conversations easier over time and supports the realization that glossing isn\u2019t helpful, nor is it a solution,\u201d Leal said. \u201cYou can discuss your career path and express your interest in professional development so you can grow within the company.\u201d<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Don\u2019t dismiss feedback<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>The truth can hurt. \u201cBe open to feedback that suggests you tend to gloss over issues rather than address them,\u201d said Clayeux.<\/p>\n<p>Acknowledge and explore the other person\u2019s perspective. Take the following example of Clayeux\u2019s for a framework to respond to criticism: \u201cThank you for raising concerns. I realize I may have seemed dismissive by focusing on the opportunities only. Can you share more about the challenges you\u2019re facing so we can address them together?\u201d<\/p>\n<div class=\"single__inline-module inline-module inline-module--newsletter aligncenter aligncenter wp-block-nypost-editor-newsletter\">\n<div class=\"inline-module__inner\">\n<div class=\"inline-module__title-wrapper\">\n<div class=\"inline-module__unsubmitted-title-wrapper\">\n<h3 class=\"inline-module__title headline headline--combo-sm-md\">\n\t\t\t\t\tCharlie Gasparino has his finger on the pulse of where business, politics and finance meet\t\t\t\t<\/h3>\n<p class=\"inline-module__cta\">\n\t\t\t\t\tSign up to receive On The Money by Charlie Gasparino in your inbox every Thursday.\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<p><h3 class=\"inline-module__title headline headline--combo-sm-md\">\n\t\t\t\t\tThanks for signing up!\t\t\t\t<\/h3>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/p><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Nix the people pleasing<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>\u201cMany people pleasers tend to practice glossing, and leadership may not know of any issues until they receive their hard-working employee\u2019s resignation,\u201d cautioned Leal. \u201cConsistently putting on a brave face, not addressing issues and keeping quiet about what you need as an employee can also be detrimental to your career. If you do not speak up about an issue, including not advocating your ambitions for advancement, your career could become stagnant.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Glossing and toxic positivity can lower morale over time by eroding trust and squelching open communication. Implementing a mindfulness practice like meditation or yoga or speaking with a licensed therapist can help you learn more about your inner tendencies to always keep other people happy and rewire your inclination to bend over backward for others \u2014 both in your professional and your personal life.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>Identify when someone is glossing<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>While the onus is on an employee to speak up, it is important for managers to develop individual relationships with their team so they are aware when something may be off.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cEncouraging conversation to help drive personal and team connection is especially critical today as we manage in remote and hybrid settings,\u201d said Leal.<\/p>\n<p>Leal shares the story of a client where an employee had significant changes to their role, and when asked how things were going, the employee consistently said all was well.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cIn actuality, the employee was overwhelmed but didn\u2019t want to appear as if they didn\u2019t know what they were doing,\u201d said Leal. \u201cRather than ask for help, or take the help offered, the employee opted to figure things out on their own.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Eventually, it got to the point where the employee was visibly struggling and the manager stepped in. This suffering in silence due to glossing \u201coccurs far more often than we would hope,\u201d said Leal.<br \/>Don\u2019t be part of that cohort. 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