{"id":117241,"date":"2024-10-23T00:23:30","date_gmt":"2024-10-22T17:23:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=117241"},"modified":"2024-10-23T00:23:30","modified_gmt":"2024-10-22T17:23:30","slug":"im-thinking-of-giving-up-on-my-relationship-with-my-granddaughter-her-attitude-is-beyond","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=117241","title":{"rendered":"I&#8217;m thinking of giving up on my relationship with my granddaughter. Her attitude is beyond."},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-layout-key=\"-fb+5w+4e-db+86\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"7910942971\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div itemprop=\"mainEntityOfPage\">\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"16\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkacxa004224kyecf2pilk@published\"><em>Care and Feeding is Slate\u2019s parenting advice column.\u00a0<\/em><strong><em>Have a question for Care and Feeding?\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/forms.gle\/4BXEw8Wtcd7aAyXh9\"><strong><em>Submit it here<\/em><\/strong><\/a><strong><em>.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"4\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkf8pv00163b72lhwf3km1@published\"><strong>Dear Care and Feeding,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"72\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkffum001e3b72up29v8r5@published\">My 12 year old granddaughter hates me, and has for a number of years. She won\u2019t even let me hug her. I take her and her friends to fun places every weekend. But if I call her she won\u2019t answer. I have no idea why she hates me. I get no help from her parents and they have no problem with her constantly saying nasty things to me. Should I give up?<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"4\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkffuv001f3b729voojyr9@published\">\u2014Hated by my Granddaughter<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"2\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkfha6001m3b72jz2vwxo9@published\"><strong>Dear Hated,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"84\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkfo9i001u3b72mtvcin7w@published\">If it makes you unhappy to spend time with your granddaughter, you can stop doing it. You\u2019re an adult! But cutting people out of your life isn\u2019t an easy task. The good news is that a twelve year old doesn\u2019t stay twelve forever. If you walk away (or do the bare minimum of interacting with her on holidays) you\u2019ll probably regret it. Instead, try to change your relationship with her into a positive one, or at least into one where you don\u2019t feel terrible.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"150\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkg0pv00223b72cz20lhaa@published\">Start by trying to figure out if it\u2019s really something you\u2019re doing or just her general attitude. Talk to her parents (or her!) to try to figure out if she really \u201chates\u201d you. She might be acting out towards everyone in her life. She might also just be a nasty person! What you think of as \u201ctaking her to fun places,\u201d she might think of as \u201cbeing dragged to annoying places.\u201d What you think of as a hug, she might find awkward or embarrassing. Who knows what goes on in the minds of tweens?! You may never know the answer in this case, but you can probably get a little bit of insight by asking. Also, does your granddaughter know how you feel? When she says nasty things to you, tell her how that makes you feel. She\u2019ll probably keep saying them, but you\u2019ll feel better having said your piece.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"72\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kmng83006g3b72bzuh5os8@published\">You could also find a middle ground between \u201cgiving up\u201d and continuing to be <em>so<\/em> present with her. Every weekend is a lot to see a grandchild, especially one you aren\u2019t getting along with. Could you step back from schlepping her and her friends around, or at least reframe it in your head that you\u2019re helping her <em>parents<\/em> out, not her?\u00a0Is there an activity that she <em>would <\/em>like to do with you?<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"24\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkg0pv00243b72o5bpct66@published\">Also, don\u2019t call. Text. She may or may not write back, but I think texting will up your chances of getting a positive response.<\/p>\n<div class=\"prudie-google-form\" data-form-response-uri=\"https:\/\/docs.google.com\/forms\/u\/0\/d\/e\/1FAIpQLSeI516MVbV7en9S-8krL2zppY_GWq-qad7K_P7iUvxcD7t6vA\/formResponse\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/prudie-google-form\/instances\/cm2kkh0rq002i3b724ewvakho@published\">\n<p class=\"prudie-google-form__disclaimer\">\n      Please keep questions short (&lt;150 words), and don\u2018t submit the same question to multiple columns. We are unable to edit or remove questions after publication. Use pseudonyms to maintain anonymity. Your submission may be used in other Slate advice columns and may be edited for publication.\n    <\/p>\n<p>    <iframe class=\"js-hidden-iframe\" name=\"hidden_iframe\" id=\"hidden_iframe\" style=\"display:none;\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-notification--success js-success-message\" hidden=\"\">Thanks! Your question has been submitted.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"4\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkiy12002x3b72zn7xar1a@published\"><strong>Dear Care and Feeding,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"62\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkj6wf00353b72rgh4g1wd@published\">We are struggling with my nine year old boy\u2019s sleeping.\u00a0 He\u2019s always been a sensitive kid and a semi-light sleeper.\u00a0 He has an hour of wind-down time after his younger sister goes to bed (they share a room), then toothbrushing and to bed.\u00a0 Typically, I\u2019ve sat with him for 20 minutes, then I\u2019d leave and he\u2019d read a little longer then sleep.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"173\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkj6wp00363b72s605d3r1@published\">While we were traveling over the summer, though, he started to come out of his room to say hi when he was supposed to be asleep (his dad and I were usually just chatting in the living room.)\u00a0 It wasn\u2019t a big deal; we just sent him back to bed and he\u2019d fall asleep. However, it got worse when we came home; he would come down panicked because he couldn\u2019t fall asleep and he wanted someone to sit with him; if I agreed to sit with him he was so on edge anticipating me leaving that he\u2019d fight sleep, or wake up ten minutes after falling asleep and then panic if I wasn\u2019t there. Sometimes he\u2019d fall asleep OK, but then wake up in the middle of the night with his heart racing. We\u2019d always give him a hug and send him back to bed.\u00a0 He does not have nightmares, but said that he was nervous about school starting and wanted more attention from me, but mostly this was being stressed about sleeping.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"183\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkj6wq00373b7238p6wyfg@published\">After a few weeks of this my husband started sleeping on a mattress in his room. This fixed things; he falls asleep normally with my husband there, and usually sleeps through the night. He still sometimes (1-2 times a week) wakes up or can\u2019t fall asleep, but he walks over to his dad, gets a hug, and goes back to bed.\u00a0 We did this for a month, and then told him to go to sleep on his own, but he couldn\u2019t.\u00a0 So now my husband\u2019s been sleeping on the floor and going to bed at 9 every night.\u00a0 My son is calm and reasonable when we talk to him; he doesn\u2019t seem traumatized about anything, and says he\u2019s OK sleeping on his own\u2014but when we try, he\u2019ll just worry and keep himself awake. Neither letting him read for hours, nor banning reading in bed has helped. I will try to teach him some relaxation techniques, but otherwise I\u2019m stuck.\u00a0 He sincerely freaks out and gets a racing heartbeat and can\u2019t fall asleep on his own, but we can\u2019t sleep in his room forever!<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"3\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkj6wq00383b72kpy89vuj@published\">\u2014Struggling to Sleep<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"2\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkj6wq00393b723aym9q22@published\"><strong>Dear Struggling,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"39\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkj6wq003a3b72u01b8jb0@published\">You\u2019re exactly right: this can\u2019t go on forever! Your son\u2019s behavior is a phase and it will end. While you wait for the phase to end you can either grin and bear it or try to speed things up.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"108\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkj6wq003b3b72r7typ9kp@published\">You can keep trying to figure out if there\u2019s something bigger that your son is scared of that\u2019s giving him this anxiety (it sounds like he\u2019s not just doing this for attention). Are there fears he has that you can calm? If you can get to the root of why he\u2019s scared of sleeping, he can talk it through a few times, which should help. You say that he seems calm, reasonable, and untraumatized when you talk to him\u2014remind him that it\u2019s perfectly natural to be scared of the dark or worried about bedtime, and that he wouldn\u2019t be the first kid to have anxiety keeping him up.<\/p>\n<aside class=\"recirc-line\" data-via=\"recirc-line\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/recirc-line\/instances\/cm2kkacxa004324kyazylnnd8@published\">\n<p>    <a href=\"https:\/\/slate.com\/advice\/2024\/10\/son-school-project-artificial-intelligence-parenting-advice.html\" class=\"recirc-line__content\"><\/p>\n<div class=\"recirc-line__img\">\n          <img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/compote.slate.com\/images\/ae4a6862-2713-4628-a394-4aa5c29745ff.jpeg?crop=1560%2C1040%2Cx0%2Cy0&amp;width=140\" width=\"141\" height=\"94\" srcset=\"https:\/\/compote.slate.com\/images\/ae4a6862-2713-4628-a394-4aa5c29745ff.jpeg?crop=1560%2C1040%2Cx0%2Cy0&amp;width=320 320w,&#10;https:\/\/compote.slate.com\/images\/ae4a6862-2713-4628-a394-4aa5c29745ff.jpeg?crop=1560%2C1040%2Cx0%2Cy0&amp;width=480 480w,&#10;https:\/\/compote.slate.com\/images\/ae4a6862-2713-4628-a394-4aa5c29745ff.jpeg?crop=1560%2C1040%2Cx0%2Cy0&amp;width=600 600w,&#10;https:\/\/compote.slate.com\/images\/ae4a6862-2713-4628-a394-4aa5c29745ff.jpeg?crop=1560%2C1040%2Cx0%2Cy0&amp;width=840 840w,&#10;https:\/\/compote.slate.com\/images\/ae4a6862-2713-4628-a394-4aa5c29745ff.jpeg?crop=1560%2C1040%2Cx0%2Cy0&amp;width=960 960w,&#10;https:\/\/compote.slate.com\/images\/ae4a6862-2713-4628-a394-4aa5c29745ff.jpeg?crop=1560%2C1040%2Cx0%2Cy0&amp;width=1280 1280w,&#10;https:\/\/compote.slate.com\/images\/ae4a6862-2713-4628-a394-4aa5c29745ff.jpeg?crop=1560%2C1040%2Cx0%2Cy0&amp;width=1440 1440w,&#10;https:\/\/compote.slate.com\/images\/ae4a6862-2713-4628-a394-4aa5c29745ff.jpeg?crop=1560%2C1040%2Cx0%2Cy0&amp;width=1600 1600w,&#10;https:\/\/compote.slate.com\/images\/ae4a6862-2713-4628-a394-4aa5c29745ff.jpeg?crop=1560%2C1040%2Cx0%2Cy0&amp;width=1920 1920w,&#10;https:\/\/compote.slate.com\/images\/ae4a6862-2713-4628-a394-4aa5c29745ff.jpeg?crop=1560%2C1040%2Cx0%2Cy0&amp;width=2200 2200w\" sizes=\"auto, 141px\" alt=\"\" loading=\"lazy\"\/>\n        <\/div>\n<p><h4 class=\"recirc-line__byline\">Michelle Herman<\/h4>\n<h3 class=\"recirc-line__promoline\">My Kid\u2019s Teacher Has Assigned My Son a Project That Will No Doubt Turn Him Into an Incel<\/h3>\n<p>        <b class=\"slate-link--bold recirc-line__read-more\">Read More<\/b>\n      <\/p>\n<p>    <\/a><br \/>\n<\/aside>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"83\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkj6wr003c3b72u5gshwy8@published\">For his middle-of-the-night-wake ups, you\u2019re on the right track with breathing exercises. Keep trying different self-soothing techniques. A good night light to turn on might help. A particular stuffy he can get a hug from. If he wakes up in the middle of the night, ask him in the morning how he tried to solve his own problem <em>before<\/em> coming for your help. Telling you the thing that he tried will reinforce that those are options for calming down before seeking you out.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"48\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkj6wr003d3b72zesb4vuh@published\">In the meantime, your husband should stop sleeping in his room. It\u2019s uncomfortable! Having been through similar issues, I\u2019d suggest throwing a camping mattress on the floor in <em>your<\/em> room. If your son is the one who wants company, he can be the one sleeping on the floor.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"67\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkj6wr003e3b7263xngumz@published\">But don\u2019t give up on trying to get him to sleep alone in\u00a0 his own room. Starting once or twice a week, read together for just\u00a0 10 or 20\u00a0 minutes and then turn the lights out. If he ends up back on the mattress in your room, so be it. Eventually, it will stick, but you have to keep trying to know when the phase is over.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"subhead subhead--none\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/subhead\/instances\/cm2kkk2u500403b72k8msvf4z@published\">\n<p><strong>Catch Up on Care and Feeding<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"14\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kkjuas003s3b72kurv42ti@published\">\u00b7\u00a0<em>Missed earlier columns this week?\u00a0<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/slate.com\/human-interest\/care-and-feeding\"><em>Read them here<\/em><\/a><em>.<\/em><br \/>\ufeff\u00b7\u00a0<em>Discuss this column in the\u00a0<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/slateparenting\/\"><em>Slate Parenting Facebook group<\/em><\/a><em>!<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"4\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kklplt004s3b72yqg25i7f@published\"><strong>Dear Care and Feeding,\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"75\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kklr2n00503b727n953zqu@published\">I (19, NB) need help dealing with my relationship with my mother. She forced me into a pseudo-therapist\/best friend\/sister role until the age of 11 (badmouthing and damaging my relationships with other family members, including my grandmother and aunt, in the process). When I started displaying my own mental health issues and ceased being a confidant, she treated me with sustained and hysterical anger. I have begged her to go to therapy and she refuses.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"100\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kklr2o00513b72yvkj5fdr@published\">I have now moved out of the family home. When I speak to my mother, she is friendly and we make small talk, but we are not close. Their house makes me feel ill and visiting\/meeting up with her is extremely taxing for me. I have nightmares about her and I feel like she is in my head criticising me 24\/7. I am on a waiting list for therapy but I don\u2019t know what to do in the meantime? I\u2019m angry but I know I have to accept that she won\u2019t change. I\u2019m just sad this has happened to us.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"7\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kklr2o00523b72spluz971@published\">\u2014I\u2019m More Than She Thinks I Am<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"7\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kklr2o00533b724e9c25g0@published\"><strong>Dear More Than She Thinks You Are,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"90\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kklr2o00543b724fyb4718@published\">Good for you for moving out and getting away from what\u2019s clearly a toxic relationship with your mother. This is a chance for you to work on yourself and your relationships with people other than her. Why not reach out to your aunt and grandmother to try to rebuild those relationships? Build up your friend group. Focus on the positive relationships that you have and nurture them. If you don\u2019t have a good friend group, join some support groups or common interest groups around your hobbies and start building one.<\/p>\n<aside data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/in-article-recirc\/instances\/cm2kkacxa004424kynd6sp9dl@published\" class=\"in-article-recirc\" data-via=\"article-inline_recirc-section-advice\">\n<ol class=\"in-article-recirc__list\">\n<li class=\"in-article-recirc__item\">\n          <a href=\"https:\/\/slate.com\/advice\/2024\/10\/holiday-escape-in-laws-plan-family-advice.html\" class=\"in-article-recirc__link\"><\/p>\n<p>            Help! Every Year I Devise a Plan to Escape My In-Laws\u2019 Multiday Christmas Extravaganza. 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Well, We Have a Bit of a Dirty Secret We Don\u2019t Want to Tell.<br \/>\n          <\/a>\n        <\/li>\n<li class=\"in-article-recirc__item\">\n          <a href=\"https:\/\/slate.com\/advice\/2024\/10\/stay-at-home-mom-husband-private-money-personal-finance-advice.html\" class=\"in-article-recirc__link\"><\/p>\n<p>            I\u2019m a Stay-at-Home-Mom. I\u2019m Worried About What My Husband Does With All of Our Money.<br \/>\n          <\/a>\n        <\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/aside>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"78\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kklr2p00553b72tzkfmlel@published\">If you find spending time with your mother taxing and uncomfortable, you don\u2019t have to do it. If you do want to keep trying, you definitely don\u2019t have to spend time with her alone. Meet in neutral territory, not at her house, and bring a friend with you. They don\u2019t need to say or do anything. They can act as a shield for gaslighting or extreme behavior. Later, your friend can back up your recollection of the encounter.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"96\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kklr2p00563b724g4dtebp@published\">While you wait for therapy , there\u2019s plenty\u00a0 you can do to deal with the anger you feel towards your mother and your sorrow about this relationship. My preferred therapy is outdoor exercise, but if that\u2019s not your cup of tea, look into meditation, yoga, deep breathing or artistic endeavors. Everyone has different ways of finding peace, so make sure to keep trying different tactics until something helps. Writing about your feelings and situation can also be therapeutic. Start journaling. It will let you vent somewhere safe and may prove useful when you start talk therapy.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"53\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kklr2p00573b72nra2hxsc@published\">Again, you\u2019ve already taken some big strides forward. You\u2019ve realized that it\u2019s up to your mother to change her behavior, not you. It\u2019s totally fine to just make small talk with her, that might be what your relationship is right now, or for a while. Keep up the great work and good luck!<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"1\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2kklttx005e3b722tpahs21@published\"><span class=\"slate-paragraph--tombstone\">\u2014Greg<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"subhead subhead--none\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/subhead\/instances\/cm2km0667005z3b72gdyjfz1e@published\">\n<p>More Advice from Slate<\/p>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"108\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm2km14id00643b720z0095oz@published\">My sister Kari had her first baby in September. My husband Joe and I are adoptive parents and were chosen to adopt a newborn\u2014with no notice\u2014in August. Kari and her husband wouldn\u2019t talk to my husband and me for months, claiming that we adopted our child to purposefully steal their baby\u2019s attention.  (Merely three hours separated the time we learned of our baby\u2019s existence and the moment we welcomed him into our home.) 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