{"id":123969,"date":"2024-11-09T20:12:49","date_gmt":"2024-11-09T13:12:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=123969"},"modified":"2024-11-09T20:12:49","modified_gmt":"2024-11-09T13:12:49","slug":"can-a-two-letter-word-really-change-your-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=123969","title":{"rendered":"Can a two-letter word really change your life?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-layout-key=\"-fb+5w+4e-db+86\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"7910942971\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div id=\"\">\n<figure>\n<div data-component=\"image-block\" class=\"sc-18fde0d6-0 ejjhCR\">\n<div data-testid=\"hero-image\" class=\"sc-a34861b-1 jxzoZC\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.bbc.com\/bbcx\/grey-placeholder.png\" class=\"sc-a34861b-0 cOpVbP hide-when-no-script\"\/><img decoding=\"async\" sizes=\"(min-width: 1280px) 50vw, (min-width: 1008px) 66vw, 96vw\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/240\/cpsprodpb\/b5b9\/live\/b630ef70-9e74-11ef-b2aa-7dd5f6f327ea.jpg.webp 240w,https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/320\/cpsprodpb\/b5b9\/live\/b630ef70-9e74-11ef-b2aa-7dd5f6f327ea.jpg.webp 320w,https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/480\/cpsprodpb\/b5b9\/live\/b630ef70-9e74-11ef-b2aa-7dd5f6f327ea.jpg.webp 480w,https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/640\/cpsprodpb\/b5b9\/live\/b630ef70-9e74-11ef-b2aa-7dd5f6f327ea.jpg.webp 640w,https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/800\/cpsprodpb\/b5b9\/live\/b630ef70-9e74-11ef-b2aa-7dd5f6f327ea.jpg.webp 800w,https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/1024\/cpsprodpb\/b5b9\/live\/b630ef70-9e74-11ef-b2aa-7dd5f6f327ea.jpg.webp 1024w,https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/1536\/cpsprodpb\/b5b9\/live\/b630ef70-9e74-11ef-b2aa-7dd5f6f327ea.jpg.webp 1536w\" src=\"https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/480\/cpsprodpb\/b5b9\/live\/b630ef70-9e74-11ef-b2aa-7dd5f6f327ea.jpg.webp\" loading=\"eager\" alt=\"Sophie Jones Sophie is taking a selfie. She has long blonde hair with half of it tied back with a yellow bow holding it in place. She wears a gold necklace and a yellow strappy top.\" class=\"sc-a34861b-0 efFcac\"\/><span class=\"sc-a34861b-2 fxQYxK\">Sophie Jones<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><figcaption class=\"sc-8353772e-0 cvNhQw\">Sophie Jones has 180k followers on TikTok where she puts herself out of her comfort zone to gain confidence<!-- --><\/figcaption><\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<div data-component=\"text-block\" class=\"sc-18fde0d6-0 dlWCEZ\">\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">&#8220;Get out of your comfort zone.&#8221; &#8220;Take no for an answer.&#8221; &#8220;Do something every day that makes you feel uncomfortable.&#8221;<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">If you&#8217;ve spent any time on social media you&#8217;ll be used to seeing these motivational memes.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">And you might have been seeing more recently thanks to the &#8220;rejection therapy&#8221; trend.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">The most basic version involves pushing yourself to make a silly request or ask a question that&#8217;s almost certain to get turned down.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">Do it enough times, the theory goes, and you&#8217;ll desensitise yourself to rejection and boost your confidence.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">Others take it further, performing wacky, harmless stunts that will attract attention &#8211; and possible judgement from strangers &#8211; in public.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">While it&#8217;s not an officially recognised form of therapy, some people will tell you it&#8217;s changed their lives.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">But, professionals tell BBC Newsbeat, it&#8217;s not for everyone.<!-- --><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div data-component=\"text-block\" class=\"sc-18fde0d6-0 dlWCEZ\">\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">One person who swears by rejection therapy is Sophie Jones.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">The 22-year-old from Warrington says she was inspired to try it because she was always scared to speak up at work or make plans with friends.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">She says she quickly learned that you might not always get the response you expect.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">&#8220;I&#8217;ve realised that people do not like to reject other people,&#8221; she says. <!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">&#8220;It is very rare that I&#8217;ve got a straight-up &#8216;no&#8217; from somebody &#8211; I always get an awkward laugh or, like, a &#8216;why?&#8217;.&#8221; <!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">Sophie actually jumped in at the deep end when she first tried rejection therapy in May this year.<!-- --><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div data-component=\"social-block\" class=\"sc-18fde0d6-0 jVHuOl\">\n<div class=\"sc-188a5e30-1 gfmZbm\">\n<h4 class=\"sc-188a5e30-2 fJRqqf\">Allow <!-- -->TikTok<!-- --> content?<!-- --><\/h4>\n<div class=\"sc-188a5e30-3 biRaSg\">This article contains content provided by <!-- -->TikTok<!-- -->. 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Her hands are propped under her chin. She is wearing a pink lipstick and small gold hoop earrings. She has blonde shoulder-length hair.\" class=\"sc-a34861b-0 efFcac\"\/><span class=\"sc-a34861b-2 fxQYxK\">Dr Louise Goddard-Crawley<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p><figcaption class=\"sc-8353772e-0 cvNhQw\">Dr Louise Goddard-Crawley says she&#8217;s cautious about rejection therapy<!-- --><\/figcaption><\/p>\n<\/figure>\n<div data-component=\"text-block\" class=\"sc-18fde0d6-0 dlWCEZ\">\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">Dr Louise Goddard-Crawley is a psychologist specialising in attachment and relationships.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">She says she&#8217;s cautious about rejection therapy.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">&#8220;I understand the idea of intentionally seeking out rejection to lose the fear of it,&#8221; she says.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">&#8220;It can help to build resilience. But it doesn&#8217;t necessarily mean it will lessen the sting of the rejection.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">&#8220;It could have the opposite effect and make you retreat a little bit more into that comfort zone.&#8221;<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">Clinical psychologist Dr Jake Easto points out that there isn&#8217;t any published scientific research to show rejection therapy actually helps people.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">He&#8217;d call it a self-help technique instead.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">But, he says, the basic theories behind it seem &#8220;quite sound&#8221; and he can understand the appeal of it. <!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">&#8220;I think \u2018rejection therapy\u2019 has been able to package some well-established techniques in a new and fun package,&#8221; he says. <!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">&#8220;As a self-help technique I think it could definitely help people and encourage people to make positive changes.&#8221;<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">However, rejection therapy isn&#8217;t tailored to individuals in the same way as more established methods with good evidence behind them, he says.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">Dr Easto says cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), for example, is often used for treating disorders including PTSD, OCD and anxiety in a more targeted way.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">&#8220;The tasks in rejection therapy need to be a bit more generalised, due to being targeted at a mass audience,&#8221; he says. <!-- --><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div data-component=\"text-block\" class=\"sc-18fde0d6-0 dlWCEZ\">\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">Sophie is convinced that rejection therapy has helped her, and says she gets contacted frequently by people who&#8217;ve been inspired to try it.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">&#8220;People saying they&#8217;ve not gone out in months and they&#8217;ve gone for a little walk around the park because of me fills me with absolute joy, because that was honestly one of the things I was apprehensive about,&#8221; she says.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">&#8220;The amount of people that have said they&#8217;re inspired by it is very heartwarming and is fulfilling.&#8221;<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">Dr Goddard-Crawley says that anyone with more severe social anxiety should seek deeper, personal therapy to work out where it comes from.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">She&#8217;s seen progress in people taking on rejection therapy, but says you also need to understand where the fear of rejection comes from.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">She says that if you&#8217;re told &#8220;no&#8221; you should understand it&#8217;s about the other person&#8217;s circumstances and not your own worth.<!-- --><\/p>\n<p class=\"sc-eb7bd5f6-0 fYAfXe\">&#8220;If you&#8217;re rejected, you&#8217;ll survive, you&#8217;ll be okay.&#8221;<!-- --><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<figure>\n<div data-component=\"image-block\" class=\"sc-18fde0d6-0 gfTVSf\">\n<div data-testid=\"image\" class=\"sc-a34861b-1 jxzoZC\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.bbc.com\/bbcx\/grey-placeholder.png\" class=\"sc-a34861b-0 cOpVbP hide-when-no-script\"\/><img decoding=\"async\" sizes=\"(min-width: 1280px) 50vw, (min-width: 1008px) 66vw, 96vw\" srcset=\"https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/240\/cpsprodpb\/8366\/live\/74a706f0-15d7-11ef-9b12-1ba8f95c4917.jpg.webp 240w,https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/320\/cpsprodpb\/8366\/live\/74a706f0-15d7-11ef-9b12-1ba8f95c4917.jpg.webp 320w,https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/480\/cpsprodpb\/8366\/live\/74a706f0-15d7-11ef-9b12-1ba8f95c4917.jpg.webp 480w,https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/640\/cpsprodpb\/8366\/live\/74a706f0-15d7-11ef-9b12-1ba8f95c4917.jpg.webp 640w,https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/800\/cpsprodpb\/8366\/live\/74a706f0-15d7-11ef-9b12-1ba8f95c4917.jpg.webp 800w,https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/1024\/cpsprodpb\/8366\/live\/74a706f0-15d7-11ef-9b12-1ba8f95c4917.jpg.webp 1024w,https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/1536\/cpsprodpb\/8366\/live\/74a706f0-15d7-11ef-9b12-1ba8f95c4917.jpg.webp 1536w\" src=\"https:\/\/ichef.bbci.co.uk\/news\/480\/cpsprodpb\/8366\/live\/74a706f0-15d7-11ef-9b12-1ba8f95c4917.jpg.webp\" loading=\"lazy\" alt=\"A footer logo for BBC Newsbeat. 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