{"id":134940,"date":"2024-12-09T03:36:00","date_gmt":"2024-12-08T20:36:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=134940"},"modified":"2024-12-09T03:36:00","modified_gmt":"2024-12-08T20:36:00","slug":"how-to-deal-with-an-angry-person","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=134940","title":{"rendered":"How To Deal With An Angry Person"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-layout-key=\"-fb+5w+4e-db+86\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"7910942971\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div id=\"\">\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>The last thing that most of us want to deal with is an angry person in our face. But chances are, sooner or later, it\u2019s going to happen.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>So what do we do? And, maybe more importantly, what <em>shouldn\u2019t<\/em> we do?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>Those are some of the questions that we \u2014 Raj Punjabi and Noah Michelson, the co-hosts of <a href=\"https:\/\/shows.acast.com\/am-i-doing-it-wrong\" target=\"_blank\" role=\"link\" class=\" js-entry-link cet-external-link\" data-vars-item-name=\"HuffPost\u2019s \u201cAm I Doing It Wrong?\u201d\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"67536ba9e4b0807fc897bc56\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/shows.acast.com\/am-i-doing-it-wrong\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"0\" rel=\"noopener\">HuffPost\u2019s \u201cAm I Doing It Wrong?\u201d<\/a> podcast \u2014 recently posed to Ryan Martin, better know as <a href=\"https:\/\/alltheragescience.com\/martin\/\" target=\"_blank\" role=\"link\" class=\" js-entry-link cet-external-link\" data-vars-item-name=\"the Anger Professor\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"67536ba9e4b0807fc897bc56\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/alltheragescience.com\/martin\/\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"1\" rel=\"noopener\">the Anger Professor<\/a>, to find out how to \u201cdo anger better.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>\u201cYou had a great tweet,\u201d Michelson said during the conversation. \u201cYou said something like, \u2018Never in the history of \u201ccalm downs\u2019 has \u2018calm down\u2019 calmed down someone.\u2019 So I\u2019m guessing \u2018calm down\u2019 is not the thing you want to say.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>\u201cI think \u2018relax\u2019 is even worse,\u201d Punjabi added.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>\u201cNo, \u2018relax\u2019 has never relaxed anyone,\u201d agreed Martin, a psychology professor and an associate dean for the College of Arts, Humanities and Social Sciences at the University of Wisconsin-Green Bay.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>\u201cThis is a case where &#8230; people are elevated and they\u2019re not necessarily thinking as rationally, and they\u2019re a little defensive. You\u2019re not going to make as much progress with those sort of direct statements that you want to make,\u201d he added. \u201cTelling people to do things like \u2018just breathe\u2019 aren\u2019t going to have much of an impact.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>Instead, modeling those actions yourself is going to be more effective.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>\u201cOne of the things I think is funny is that often when people tell someone to \u2018calm down,\u2019 they yell it or they say it in a very loud, stern voice,\u201d said Martin, the author of \u201c<a href=\"http:\/\/alltheragescience.com\/how-to-deal-with-angry-people\/\" role=\"link\" class=\" js-entry-link cet-external-link\" data-vars-item-name=\"How To Deal With Angry People\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"67536ba9e4b0807fc897bc56\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"http:\/\/alltheragescience.com\/how-to-deal-with-angry-people\/\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"3\">How To Deal With Angry People<\/a>\u201d and \u201c<a href=\"http:\/\/alltheragescience.com\/why-we-get-mad\/\" role=\"link\" class=\" js-entry-link cet-external-link\" data-vars-item-name=\"Why We Get Mad: How To Use Your Anger for Positive Change\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"67536ba9e4b0807fc897bc56\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"http:\/\/alltheragescience.com\/why-we-get-mad\/\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"4\">Why We Get Mad: How To Use Your Anger for Positive Change<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>\u201cBut if you actually back up a little bit and you start speaking softer than normal, you start to communicate in a little more gentle tone, people will sort of inherently match that. This also is rooted in our evolutionary history, that we tend to match the people around us in tone.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>This can help take the edge off the situation without using those triggering phrases, which tend to make us even more irritated.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>\u201cIt\u2019s, frankly, manipulative. &#8230; You\u2019re actually decreasing that elevation,\u201d Martin said. \u201cSo speaking in that more gentle voice, staying calm yourself, finding ways to ultimately, if they\u2019re venting, [offer] some minimal encouragers to let them get through that.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>Once there\u2019s less intensity, you\u2019re more likely to have an opportunity to respond.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>\u201cI don\u2019t think you want to agree with someone if you don\u2019t agree with them,\u201d said Martin. \u201cBut if you can frame a response that seems validating, to let them know \u2018you\u2019re obviously really upset about this, let\u2019s talk through some solutions together\u2019 \u2014 ways that you can validate their feelings without necessarily validating the <em>cause<\/em> of their feelings.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>We also discussed the three questions that you should ask yourself before you get angry, what you should do before you send an angry email, and much more.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p>For more from Ryan Martin, <a href=\"https:\/\/alltheragescience.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" role=\"link\" class=\" js-entry-link cet-external-link\" data-vars-item-name=\"visit his website\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"67536ba9e4b0807fc897bc56\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/alltheragescience.com\/\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"21\" rel=\"noopener\">visit his website<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/angerprofessor\/?hl=en\" target=\"_blank\" role=\"link\" class=\" js-entry-link cet-external-link\" data-vars-item-name=\"Instagram\" data-vars-item-type=\"text\" data-vars-unit-name=\"67536ba9e4b0807fc897bc56\" data-vars-unit-type=\"buzz_body\" data-vars-target-content-id=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/angerprofessor\/?hl=en\" data-vars-target-content-type=\"url\" data-vars-type=\"web_external_link\" data-vars-subunit-name=\"article_body\" data-vars-subunit-type=\"component\" data-vars-position-in-subunit=\"22\" rel=\"noopener\">Instagram<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"primary-cli cli cli-text \">\n<p><em>Need some help with something you\u2019ve been doing wrong? 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