{"id":135346,"date":"2024-12-10T06:12:54","date_gmt":"2024-12-09T23:12:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=135346"},"modified":"2024-12-10T06:12:54","modified_gmt":"2024-12-09T23:12:54","slug":"i-want-to-cut-my-mother-in-law-out-of-our-lives-her-lifestyle-offends-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=135346","title":{"rendered":"I want to cut my mother-in-law out of our lives. Her lifestyle offends me."},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-layout-key=\"-fb+5w+4e-db+86\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"7910942971\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div itemprop=\"mainEntityOfPage\">\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"17\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdh4ze003a8zm4pm7wyz67@published\"><em>Pay Dirt is Slate\u2019s money advice column.\u00a0<\/em><strong><em>Have a question?\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><a href=\"https:\/\/forms.gle\/icQft75iXrVCaSkaA\"><strong><em>Send it to Athena, Kristin, and Ilyce here<\/em><\/strong><\/a><strong><em>.\u00a0<\/em><\/strong><em>(It\u2019s anonymous!)<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"3\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdsv6z004a3b72dz7caslq@published\"><strong>Dear Pay Dirt,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"119\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdh7jh000o3b726m8qsp2w@published\">My mother-in-law spent my husband\u2019s inheritance when my father-in-law died. She retired when he died at the age of 53. Now, she lives off disability, her Social Security, his Social Security, and she lives lavishly. She buys 40 Stanley cups and orders every meal out. She constantly complains about how unfair her life is. I want to cut ties with her because we\u2019re struggling to afford our lives with one child and six figures of student loan debt. Her lifestyle just makes me despise her. Is her lifestyle reason enough for me to resent her? Does she \u201cowe\u201d us anything at all? Should I just grow up and move on so she can have a relationship with her granddaughter?<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"2\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdh7l8000p3b72wcwhsb1t@published\">\u2014Resentful Daughter-in-Law<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"3\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdh7n4000q3b72wqm591h0@published\"><strong>Dear Resentful Daughter-in-Law,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"37\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdh7re000r3b72x4eeru6t@published\">Your husband\u2019s inheritance? Let\u2019s start there. Unless your late father-in-law specifically left your husband money in his will or in a trust and his mother took it and spent it, it wasn\u2019t his inheritance. It was hers.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"79\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdh7ti000s3b72vd4f71is@published\">Nowhere in your letter do you express any sympathy or empathy for what your mother-in-law has gone through. She was widowed young, finished raising her family, and decided to focus on that rather than continuing to work. What does \u201cliving lavishly\u201d really mean? How much do you actually know about her finances? You typically won\u2019t get Social Security disability income and regular Social Security, and she won\u2019t get her Social Security and her late husband\u2019s. You have to choose.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"91\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdh7vl000t3b72hztjcj44@published\">My guess is that she\u2019s living just at or beyond her means, on her late husband\u2019s Social Security and maybe some disability insurance she had. It\u2019s hardly a lavish lifestyle, no matter how many Stanley cups you buy. I wonder if she\u2019s managing to pay off credit card debt and what\u2019s left of her mortgage each month. Probably not. She complains about her life because it\u2019s hard to be widowed, raise a family as a single parent without endless resources, and be disabled. I doubt it\u2019s the life she imagined living.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"86\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdh7xv000u3b72zj6gxzgz@published\">Now, let\u2019s talk about you. No, your mother-in-law doesn\u2019t owe you anything except respect. She doesn\u2019t even have to love you, but if she wants to have a relationship with her son, you, and her grandchild, she needs to be civil and kind. You need to be civil, kind, and a bit more empathetic in return. She certainly doesn\u2019t owe you anything monetarily. And, yes, I\u2019d suggest you grow up enough to recognize that you and your husband are responsible for paying for your own lives.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"70\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdh7zq000v3b72chnsjhi0@published\">So, decide you\u2019re going to take charge of your finances. If you have a huge amount of student loans, make a plan to pay it off. Take a second job or find a way to cut your expenses. Stop wallowing in your resentment. If you change your attitude and make up your mind to move forward in a different direction, you\u2019ll likely find that everything in your life gets better.<\/p>\n<div class=\"prudie-google-form\" data-form-response-uri=\"https:\/\/docs.google.com\/forms\/u\/0\/d\/e\/1FAIpQLSflrmjU69EAjrnoK7SpRoTF-06MC4kgc5LSfNffUqLc0M8Prw\/formResponse\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/prudie-google-form\/instances\/cm4he7cgk005i3b726eki5vk9@published\">\n<p class=\"prudie-google-form__disclaimer\">\n      Please keep questions short (&lt;150 words), and don\u2018t submit the same question to multiple columns. We are unable to edit or remove questions after publication. Use pseudonyms to maintain anonymity. Your submission may be used in other Slate advice columns and may be edited for publication.\n    <\/p>\n<p>    <iframe class=\"js-hidden-iframe\" name=\"hidden_iframe\" id=\"hidden_iframe\" style=\"display:none;\" frameborder=\"0\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-notification--success js-success-message\" hidden=\"\">Thanks! Your question has been submitted.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"3\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdmz8u001d3b7291zmtc5p@published\"><strong>Dear Pay Dirt,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"121\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnnn0001n3b729zg9ipsr@published\">I think it\u2019s time to leave my job. I\u2019m a 30-year-old woman who\u2019s been struggling with an autoimmune disease for three to four years. I have a diagnosis, but the many treatments I\u2019ve tried aren\u2019t helping much, and I have a lot of unresolved and unexplained issues besides my primary diagnosis. The pain and fatigue are disabling. I stopped working full-time about two years ago, and was recently asked\/told to come back full-time or to leave. Fortunately, I\u2019m already approved by our company\u2019s long-term disability policy and will have a (small portion) of my former salary when I do leave. The policy has made up for some of my missing wages and should continue to pay out when I stop working.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"167\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnnn1001o3b722w919vh9@published\">But this feels like an insane choice in 2024. I used to love my job. I traveled for work. I had special skills and qualifications. It was a little more than an \u201canswer some emails and go to a Zoom meeting\u201d kind of cushy desk job. But everything came naturally to me and I used to be very good at what I did. I just can\u2019t do it anymore. Or do much at all. I\u2019m too tired and in too much pain right now. I hope I\u2019ll find the right medications one day and get back to some semblance of my former self. I\u2019d like to go back to school and\/or resume work in another position eventually. But I\u2019m afraid of what the job market will look like in the next two, five, or 10 years. And my disability policy will keep my wages fairly stagnant. I should live a normal life span with my illness, and can\u2019t imagine what the next 45-plus years look like anymore.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"55\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnnn3001p3b72df2o0lel@published\">Am I doing the right thing? (As if I have a choice at this point?) Am I blowing up my financial and career future? Do you have any advice for a situation like mine? I have seen a counselor, and am basically OK with the actual quitting. It\u2019s everything that comes after that worries me.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"3\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnnn3001q3b720p3q401e@published\">\u2014Daunted By Disability<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"4\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnnn3001r3b72vv53yy5c@published\"><strong>Dear Daunted by Disability,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"38\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnnn3001s3b72fcgl2c6m@published\">I\u2019m sorry your illness has been so devastating. While you\u2019re about to make a decision that will have life-changing (and possibly life-long) consequences for your career, you\u2019re also deciding to prioritize your health. Without that, you\u2019ve got nothing.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"100\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnnn3001t3b72609ci1kt@published\">So while you\u2019re mourning the amazing, resourceful, productive, briefcase-toting, airport-hopping person you used to be, remind yourself that focusing on your health <em>is<\/em> the right thing to do. I think you\u2019re clinging to your job because in this strange new world you\u2019re now inhabiting, it\u2019s familiar. You used to be great at it. And, I think it\u2019s a part of yourself you really loved. You\u2019ll get there again. Let go of the idea that the job market won\u2019t support you when you\u2019re feeling better. There\u2019s always room somewhere for smart people who are innovative, creative, and willing to work hard.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"76\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnnn4001u3b726gkfdtzq@published\">But it\u2019s not where you\u2019re at today, mentally or physically. Be grateful to your employer for supporting your journey to better health and offer to help them in any way you can going forward. Maybe they\u2019ll be interested in some part-time consulting work. Maybe not. Either way, be gracious on the way out and stay in touch with people who you can put down as references or reach out to about job openings down the line.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"33\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnnn4001v3b72oknqclmf@published\">None of us can tell the future. But whatever your journey looks like from here, it starts with you regaining control of your health. Take care, and let me know how it goes.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"20\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4he7yty005x3b723rxe9peu@published\"><em>Want more Pay Dirt every week? Slate Plus members get an additional column each week.\u00a0<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/my.slate.com\/prudie-plus\/?utm_medium=link&amp;utm_campaign=plus_support&amp;utm_content=pay_dirt&amp;utm_source=article\"><strong>Sign up for Slate Plus now<\/strong><\/a><strong>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"3\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnv8300243b72x0iam0g5@published\"><strong>Dear Pay Dirt,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"131\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnvqi002e3b72aum1x9x6@published\">I\u2019m worried about my friend\u2019s betting habits. Over the past year, he has really fallen down the betting rabbit hole. He mostly bets on various sports. At first, it all seemed pretty harmless. But now he brings it up every week and is placing new bets constantly. I don\u2019t exactly know how much money he\u2019s blowing on it, but it has to be more than several hundred. He works at a retail store! It\u2019s not like he has a ton of extra cash to blow. A few of the other guys in our friend group agree that it\u2019s concerning. But we\u2019re just not sure how to broach the subject. It\u2019s his money after all, but we like to look out for each other. Is there a way to politely butt in?<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"3\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnvqk002f3b72b288j406@published\">\u2014Betting On It<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"4\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnvqk002g3b727p0e9jnn@published\"><strong>Dear Betting On It,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"32\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnvqk002h3b72e6j1bilp@published\">The next time he brings up his latest bet, try this: \u201cHey, friend. Bob, Larry, and I are wondering what\u2019s going on with all these bets you\u2019re making. What\u2019s up with that?\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"82\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnvqk002i3b72afe0hkyq@published\">Then, listen. Try to get a sense if he\u2019s placing an odd bet here or there but is immersed in the sports statistics side of it (which would explain why he talks about it all the time) or if he\u2019s actually betting the hundreds of dollars you suspect he doesn\u2019t have. Does he boast about winning or seem distressed about losses? Is he super defensive about it? All of these could be red flags that his betting is truly out of control.<\/p>\n<aside data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/in-article-recirc\/instances\/cm4hdh4ze003c8zm4oow437g7@published\" class=\"in-article-recirc\" data-via=\"article-inline_recirc-section-advice\">\n<ol class=\"in-article-recirc__list\">\n<li class=\"in-article-recirc__item\">\n          <a href=\"https:\/\/slate.com\/advice\/2024\/12\/nephew-lesson-gambling-family-advice.html\" class=\"in-article-recirc__link\"><\/p>\n<p>            I Decided to Teach My Young Nephew an Important Lesson During a Round of Pool. Uh, I\u2019ve Been Uninvited to Christmas.<br \/>\n          <\/a>\n        <\/li>\n<li class=\"in-article-recirc__item\">\n          <a href=\"https:\/\/slate.com\/advice\/2024\/12\/family-vacation-old-friends-wife-marriage-advice.html\" class=\"in-article-recirc__link\"><\/p>\n<p>            Help! I Told My Wife I Wanted to Meet Up With Old Pals on a Family Trip. She Chose the Nuclear Option.<br \/>\n          <\/a>\n        <\/li>\n<li class=\"in-article-recirc__item\">\n          <a href=\"https:\/\/slate.com\/advice\/2024\/12\/brother-marriage-writer-excuses-family-advice.html\" class=\"in-article-recirc__link\"><\/p>\n<p>            My Brother Married a Writer. She\u2019s Used It as an Excuse Their Entire Marriage.<br \/>\n          <\/a>\n        <\/li>\n<li class=\"in-article-recirc__item\">\n          <a href=\"https:\/\/slate.com\/advice\/2024\/12\/gay-men-jealousy-open-relationship-marriage-sex-advice.html\" class=\"in-article-recirc__link\"><\/p>\n<p>            My Husband and I Don\u2019t Have Sex. It\u2019s Hard to Stomach What He Does Instead.<br \/>\n          <\/a>\n        <\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/aside>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"76\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnvqk002j3b72mqos5ry7@published\">According to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.mayoclinichealthsystem.org\/hometown-health\/speaking-of-health\/dont-bet-on-it\">Mayo Clinic<\/a>, chasing your losses to get back to even is often a sign of a gambling addiction. Gambling when \u201cfeeling distressed, helpless, guilty, anxious or depressed\u201d is also worrying. If you jeopardize or lose a significant relationship, job, or educational or career opportunity because of gambling, you\u2019re also likely in over your head. So listen for whether he\u2019s struggling in other areas of his life, too\u2014and be there for him however you can.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"108\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnvql002k3b72r8htoyge@published\">If your friend recognizes that he has a problem and is willing to admit it, or even says that he has gone too far from time to time, you might suggest he contact the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.ncpgambling.org\/help-treatment\/about-the-national-problem-gambling-helpline\">National Problem Gambling Helpline<\/a> (1-800-GAMBLER), which is operated by the National Council on Problem Gambling. It operates call, text, and chat services 24\/7\/365 and serves as a one-stop hub connecting people looking for assistance with a gambling problem to local resources. This network includes 28 contact centers which cover all 50 states and the U.S. territories. You\u2019re a good pal to care. I hope he recognizes that and if he needs it, gets help.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"1\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdnxkf002u3b72qi73nink@published\"><span class=\"slate-paragraph--tombstone\">\u2014Ilyce<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"subhead subhead--none\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/subhead\/instances\/cm4hdo68a003e3b722julseuc@published\">\n<p>Classic Prudie<\/p>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"35\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4hdo3e500343b72x5e34twd@published\">My boss calls me Elaine. My name is Eileen. He doesn\u2019t catch it himself, but whenever I or someone else corrects him, he quickly apologizes and gets it right\u2026 <a href=\"https:\/\/slate.com\/human-interest\/2022\/12\/boss-wrong-name-dear-prudence-advice.html\">until the next time we speak.<\/a><\/p>\n<section class=\"newsletter-signup  \" data-turnstile-sitekey=\"0x4AAAAAAAapdPWOG3kR2_qF\" data-list=\"Advice\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/newsletter-signup\/instances\/cm4hdh4ze003d8zm46spsd4cj@published\">\n<p>\n        <svg width=\"13\" height=\"20\" class=\"newsletter-signup__arrow\">\n          <use xlink:href=\"http:\/\/slate.com\/media\/components\/newsletter-signup\/sprite.svg#arrow\"\/>\n        <\/svg><\/p>\n<p>      The latest sex, parenting, and money advice from our columnists delivered to your inbox three times a week.\n    <\/p>\n<\/section>\n<\/div>\n<p><script type=\"text\/javascript\">\n!function(f,b,e,v,n,t,s){\nif(f.fbq)return;n=f.fbq=function(){n.callMethod?\nn.callMethod.apply(n,arguments):n.queue.push(arguments)};if(!f._fbq)f._fbq=n;\nn.push=n;n.loaded=!0;n.version='2.0';n.queue=[];t=b.createElement(e);t.async=!0;\nt.src=v;s=b.getElementsByTagName(e)[0];s.parentNode.insertBefore(t,s)}(window,\ndocument,'script','https:\/\/connect.facebook.net\/en_US\/fbevents.js');\n<\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-layout-key=\"-fb+5w+4e-db+86\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"7910942971\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><div data-type=\"_mgwidget\" data-widget-id=\"1660802\">\r\n<\/div>\r\n<script>(function(w,q){w[q]=w[q]||[];w[q].push([\"_mgc.load\"])})(window,\"_mgq\");\r\n<\/script>\r\n<br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/slate.com\/advice\/2024\/12\/mother-in-law-lifestyle-finances-jealousy-money-advice.html\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Pay Dirt is Slate\u2019s money advice column.\u00a0Have a question?\u00a0Send it to Athena, Kristin, and Ilyce here.\u00a0(It\u2019s anonymous!) 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