{"id":135917,"date":"2024-12-11T19:48:58","date_gmt":"2024-12-11T12:48:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=135917"},"modified":"2024-12-11T19:48:58","modified_gmt":"2024-12-11T12:48:58","slug":"how-to-handle-a-neighbor-who-wants-you-to-do-child-care","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=135917","title":{"rendered":"How to handle a neighbor who wants you to do child care."},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-layout-key=\"-fb+5w+4e-db+86\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"7910942971\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div itemprop=\"mainEntityOfPage\">\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"18\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izw0di002n3b71164ah50l@published\"><em>Slate Plus members get\u00a0more\u00a0<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/slate.com\/human-interest\/care-and-feeding\"><em>Care and Feeding<\/em><\/a><em>\u00a0every week. Have a question about kids, parenting, or family life?\u00a0<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/forms.gle\/4BXEw8Wtcd7aAyXh9\"><em>Submit it here<\/em><\/a><em>!<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"4\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izns0j006lkvkzrk56k5wh@published\"><strong>Dear Care and Feeding,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"86\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp8zs00123b71gdzzza5l@published\">I live in a duplex with a shared backyard. I have a small table and chair where I take my coffee or have a glass of wine. I also leave the sliding glass door open but screen shut to listen the birds and get a breeze. But my new neighbor, \u201cKiki,\u201d takes this as an open invitation to pop over and chat. She doesn\u2019t just say hello. She will scoot over and plop herself down to start complaining and ask me to get her a drink.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"146\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp92000133b710mqbrq54@published\">Kiki is pregnant, and has a small child and a larger one in the form of her husband. The majority of the complaints are about how he will not help with chores or child care, followed up by excuses about how tired he is from work. At first I was sympathetic, since it looked like Kiki genuinely needed a friend, but now I am sick of her grasping nature. She has dumped her daughter on me more than once at a moment\u2019s notice because of an appointment. Last time, she made a hair appointment and when I asked why her husband couldn\u2019t watch their daughter\u2014well, he was out late Saturday and sleeping in Sunday. I told Kiki I really didn\u2019t appreciate this as my time was precious too. Kiki went on her little pity parade about being a pregnant mom and how hard she had it.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"98\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp93w00143b71zb2096ho@published\">Then, the other night, I was cooking and had the screen open to get a breeze. Kiki popped out like a movie monster and startled me. I dropped my food. Kiki let herself in my house to help me clean up, but told me her motivation was that the smell was too good and she was so hungry with all these pregnancy hormones. I told Kiki I only made enough for myself.\u00a0 Kiki pressed on about how I should cook for her and her family because when the baby is born, they will need all hands on deck.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"20\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp96700153b711qp0fjhf@published\">This isn\u2019t my boat. This isn\u2019t my crew. I am not even on the water. I am not her deckhand!<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"49\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp98400163b71dw34hp1a@published\">I feel trapped. I stopped using my outdoor area. I keep my blinds shut and don\u2019t even open the sliding glass door to hear the birds. If Kiki tries to catch me outside I make the excuse that I am in a hurry. I feel like a hunted rabbit.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"61\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp9a800173b71lww984zu@published\">I got invited to Kiki\u2019s baby shower. She wrote a note that she really wanted me there because she could use a friend right now. I felt a stab of guilt and then a stab of anger. This feels very manipulative. I know Kiki has it hard but the solution is to make her husband step up, not step on me.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"4\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp9cd00183b71dyzqlrh5@published\">What should I do?<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"5\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp9ee00193b71pip7m4yb@published\">\u2014No Fences Make Bad Neighbors<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"3\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp9gw001a3b714in3a6lq@published\"><strong>Dear No Fences,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"77\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp9iz001b3b71xgte4ab2@published\">In the past <a href=\"https:\/\/slate.com\/advice\/2024\/08\/parenting-advice-neighbors-kids-relationship.html\">I have loudly and annoyingly advocated<\/a> for neighbors\u2019 responsibilities to help other neighbors. However, there exists a line the crossing of which signifies that good-neighbordom is off the table. I agree with you that Kiki is <em>way too much<\/em>. She should not be saddling you with child care because her husband is sleeping off a hangover. She should not be letting herself into your house and demanding food! Kiki needs to get a grip.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"100\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp9kz001c3b717inb98cf@published\">It sounds like you and Kiki don\u2019t really have a future as friends. Embrace the role of <em>polite, distant neighbor<\/em>. That doesn\u2019t mean you have to close your sliding door all the time! But it means that you need to lock the screen door, and if Kiki shows up, you should chat with her for precisely 45 seconds and then retreat to the bathroom. If you\u2019re outside at your patio table and Kiki plops herself down, engage in one (1) exchange about the weather, then find a way to excuse yourself and head inside. Eventually, Kiki will take the hint.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"26\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp9nl001d3b71wkq3toha@published\">Polite, distant neighbors do not attend baby showers. You\u2019re welcome, but not obligated, to leave a casserole at Kiki\u2019s front door. Use a disposable aluminum pan.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"subhead subhead--none\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/subhead\/instances\/cm4izxgmf00323b71r19oiy4k@published\">\n<p>Catch Up on Care and Feeding<\/p>\n<\/h3>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"14\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izxgk500313b71sgdwvwal@published\">\u00b7\u00a0<em>Missed earlier columns this week?\u00a0<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/slate.com\/human-interest\/care-and-feeding\"><em>Read them here<\/em><\/a><em>.<\/em><br \/>\u00b7\u00a0<em>Discuss this column in the\u00a0<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/slateparenting\/\"><em>Slate Parenting Facebook group<\/em><\/a><em>!<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"4\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp9pn001e3b71uczzrafb@published\"><strong>Dear Care and Feeding,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"85\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp9rt001f3b71xb7q7d2j@published\">One recent morning, just after my wife, \u201cLauren,\u201d left for preschool with our 4-year-old daughter, \u201cAria,\u201d I discovered Aria\u2019s goldfish dead in its bowl. When Lauren got back, I remarked how difficult this would be for Aria, since she got \u201cMax\u201d as a present for her second birthday and had had him for so long. I began to go over ways for us to break the news to her, but Lauren stopped me and said not to worry. Turns out this is Max No. 4.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"93\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp9tv001g3b71qfmchuts@published\">According to Lauren, Aria\u2019s first fish died five months after we got it; No. 2 lasted seven months; No. 3, eight months. Max 4.0 was the most recent casualty. Each time one of the fish has passed, Lauren has replaced it without Aria\u2019s knowledge. The first two times she found the fish dead while Aria was at daycare and replaced it before she came home. When Max #3 died, Aria found him, but Lauren told her Max was sleeping and that he would be awake by the time she got back from daycare.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"93\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp9vv001h3b71m8hsmv6j@published\">When I asked Lauren just how long she planned on continuing the charade, she said that maybe when Aria is 5 or 6 she will \u201cbe mature enough to handle it\u201d when some future incarnation of Max dies. I told Lauren this sort of deception is unhealthy, and the fallout will be far worse than if we had been honest with her. She said there will only be fallout if I tell Aria, and if I do, it will be on me when Aria needs years of therapy to get over the \u201ctrauma.\u201d<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"125\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp9xq001i3b71r5jxp68i@published\">I understand losing a pet is very sad for a child, but it\u2019s part of life. If anything, I think the pain and sense of betrayal that Aria will feel at being lied to by us would be far worse than the temporary sorrow she would experience over losing a goldfish. And I have no desire to repeat this with our younger son once he is old enough to have a pet. I have said as much to my wife, but she\u2019s made clear that I am to keep this farce going, end of discussion. My suggestion that we speak to a therapist to come up with a way to resolve this was dismissed out of hand. Any recommendations for getting her to see sense?<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"5\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izp9zr001j3b71ksszk1ty@published\">\u2014If He\u2019s Dyin\u2019, We\u2019re Lyin\u2019<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"2\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izpa1u001k3b7129xm053w@published\"><strong>Dear Lyin\u2019,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"86\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izpa3u001l3b71dsp2cteq@published\">Kids between the ages of 2 and 4 have essentially no comprehension of the permanence of death, and so I view your wife\u2019s elisions of Max\u2019s deaths as victimless crimes. If a person in your life died, I\u2019d insist upon a more honest reckoning, but if you plan to replace the $3 goldfish anyway, what is the point of getting into it and trying to explain to your child a concept that she is simply cognitively not prepared to understand? Keep the peace; buy new fish.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"98\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izpa5x001m3b71cc98f6rh@published\">The crime with a victim here is that she didn\u2019t tell <em>you<\/em> about it. If <em>I<\/em> had to go on biannual emergency runs to the pet store, racing the ticking clock of a kid\u2019s return from day care, I would have a good old time telling my wife all about it when she got home from work. That she didn\u2019t want to tell <em>you<\/em> is both funny and alarming. It\u2019s almost as if your wife has spent two years shielding not only her small child from the reality of her goldfish\u2019s mortality but also shielding you, her husband.<\/p>\n<p class=\"slate-paragraph slate-graf\" data-word-count=\"85\" data-uri=\"slate.com\/_components\/slate-paragraph\/instances\/cm4izpa7y001n3b715jf1s9km@published\">Anyways, this clearly has to stop. Explain to her what the real problem is, and stress that the two of you, together, need to come up with the proper age to tell a child that a goldfish has died, rather than her making arbitrary parenting decisions and then not telling you about them. (For what it\u2019s worth, I think Lauren\u2019s based-on-nothing guess of 5 or 6 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.stanfordchildrens.org\/en\/topic\/default?id=a-childs-concept-of-death-90-P03044\">is basically correct<\/a>.) You should be able to reach this agreement without going to therapy about it. 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