{"id":138411,"date":"2024-12-18T13:22:49","date_gmt":"2024-12-18T06:22:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=138411"},"modified":"2024-12-18T13:22:49","modified_gmt":"2024-12-18T06:22:49","slug":"boyfriends-deal-breaker-changes-everything","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=138411","title":{"rendered":"Boyfriend&#8217;s Deal Breaker Changes Everything"},"content":{"rendered":"<p> <script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-layout-key=\"-fb+5w+4e-db+86\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"7910942971\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><br \/>\n<\/p>\n<div data-module=\"subbuzz-text\">\n<p>\u201cIf I can\u2019t give you what you\u2019d want and convert, I don\u2019t want to break up,\u201d I said, my hands flying in an exaggerated motion that any Jewish or Greek person would recognize. \u201cBut should we be dating?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>He agreed \u2015 we shouldn\u2019t be.<\/p>\n<p>And that was that.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d never ended a relationship over religion. Disagreements about having children? Absolutely. Political beliefs? Yes. The guy being a jerk? Oh, sure. But if you\u2019d asked me whether I\u2019d break up with a man I was falling in love with over religion \u2015 Greek Orthodox or any other \u2015 I wouldn\u2019t have even considered it a possibility.<\/p>\n<p>There are always going to be things in life that you don\u2019t expect. When I was dating, I thought the best way to guard against potential deal breakers was to be upfront and include them in my profile. That way, there\u2019d be no guessing or mistaking what I want. Any guy that viewed my profile could see that I was politically left, sitting on the fence about having kids (though leaning toward not having any) and culturally Jewish. But that isn\u2019t enough.<\/p>\n<p>These are some details that call for in-depth discussions. If you\u2019re on the apps and only looking for a hookup, then sure, these might not be important to you. But if you\u2019re looking for a long-term, serious commitment, then for many people, talking about religion may be important before things get serious. If religion is a significant part of your life, that means it\u2019ll be an important part of your future. And if you see a future with your partner, it\u2019ll play into their life as well.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Defining \u201csignificant\u201d is also important. A person doesn\u2019t need to attend services daily to find religion meaningful or a priority when choosing a partner. It\u2019s up to you to decide whether it\u2019s a deal breaker and the type of sacrifices you would be willing to make on behalf of your partner\u2019s comfort level and beliefs. Many people expect that religion won\u2019t be a huge factor in dating, especially in this day and age. But for others, religion plays a large, defining role in their identity.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Being Jewish shapes the way I see and interact with the world. It influences how I choose to celebrate milestones, how I cherish history and storytelling, and even my sense of humor. I\u2019m sure religion does the same for others. While I believe that two different religions and their traditions can be observed and honored in a relationship \u2015 that there can be a way to find harmony between them \u2015 not everyone feels this way (including other Jewish people).\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s 2023, and people have the right and freedom to draw their boundaries where they choose. I learned the hard way that when it comes to dating, you have to discuss those boundaries sooner rather than later, or else your relationship can end up in trouble. I\u2019m sad that my ex and I had to break up \u2015 I really liked him, and I know it was going somewhere good \u2015 but I\u2019ve made peace with what happened. In fact, I\u2019m proud that I stayed true to myself and my identity \u2015 but I definitely don\u2019t want to go through that in the future.<\/p>\n<p>When I start dating again, I\u2019ll certainly be thinking about all of the things \u2015 including religion \u2015 that might need to be discussed before I get too far into a relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Breaking up with someone is hard, even if you do it out of respect for your family\u2019s traditions and for your partner. But I\u2019m open to meeting new people, having new experiences and whatever the future brings. How many things lie ahead that I can\u2019t yet foresee? I can only imagine, but I hope they\u2019re all pleasant surprises. Maybe someday I\u2019ll even find <em>,<\/em> funny again.<\/p>\n<p><em>Allison Grinberg-Funes is a writer and user experience content strategist living in Boston. She has a BFA in creative writing and is working on her first novel. You can find her in local indie bookstores or email her at\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.buzzfeed.com\/allisongrinbergfunes\/mailto:\/\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">agracefulgrin@gmail.com<\/a>.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>This article originally appeared on <a href=\"https:\/\/www.huffpost.com\/entry\/breakup-boyfriend-religion-family_n_63de9c48e4b04d4d18ecbe6b\" target=\"_blank\" data-skimlinks-tracking=\"7772439\" rel=\"noopener\">HuffPost<\/a> in February 2023.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p><script async src=\"https:\/\/pagead2.googlesyndication.com\/pagead\/js\/adsbygoogle.js?client=ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     crossorigin=\"anonymous\"><\/script>\r\n<ins class=\"adsbygoogle\"\r\n     style=\"display:block\"\r\n     data-ad-format=\"fluid\"\r\n     data-ad-layout-key=\"-fb+5w+4e-db+86\"\r\n     data-ad-client=\"ca-pub-3711241968723425\"\r\n     data-ad-slot=\"7910942971\"><\/ins>\r\n<script>\r\n     (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({});\r\n<\/script><br \/>\n<br \/><div data-type=\"_mgwidget\" data-widget-id=\"1660802\">\r\n<\/div>\r\n<script>(function(w,q){w[q]=w[q]||[];w[q].push([\"_mgc.load\"])})(window,\"_mgq\");\r\n<\/script>\r\n<br \/>\n<br \/><a href=\"https:\/\/www.buzzfeed.com\/allisongrinbergfunes\/breakup-boyfriend-religion-family\">Source link <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cIf I can\u2019t give you what you\u2019d want and convert, I don\u2019t want to break up,\u201d I said, my hands flying in an exaggerated motion that any Jewish or Greek &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/?p=138411\" class=\"more-link\">Read More<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-138411","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-entertainment","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/138411","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=138411"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/138411\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=138411"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=138411"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hotvideos24.online\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=138411"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}